Have you ever taken the time to figure out exactly what you want in a business partner, a spouse, a best friend, etc.? There are over 7.3 billion people in the world, and it’s been reported that the average person will only meet about 80,000 of them. Out of those 80,000 people, not all of them are going to be the kind of people whom you’d want to be around, or help you move forward. So why not sort them and focus on those who qualify for your time?
I believe that living on a planet with so many other people is all the more reason to be conscious of who you’re allowing into your life. There’s no excuse for staying with people who sabotage your success or mistreat you when there are tens of thousands more people who would be glad to uplift you. Tens of thousands of people would love to have your unique personality, your friendship, your talents, etc. in their lives.
That being said, there is a fun Law of Attraction method of sorting people. You start by writing a list of everything you want in a person. Then you get into the habit of visualizing them and keeping your mind open for their appearance. I’m just curious, who is your dream girlfriend/boyfriend? What do they look like? What books do they read? Do they want children? Are they aggressive? Do they often joke around? Where do they work? Where do they hang out? Write all of that stuff down. For example:
My boyfriend/girlfriend is someone I can talk to about anything!
My boyfriend/girlfriend and I love hiking together!
My boyfriend/girlfriend is a non-smoker!
The Universe loves specifics. When we send mixed or incomplete messages, the Universe gives us things that match those messages. For instance, if a woman says that she wants new friends, but constantly complains that the world is crazy, people are untrustworthy, this generation is going to hell, etc., she’s sending a mixed message to the universe. Her beliefs repel the good people from her life, and attract the people who reinforce those beliefs, including friends who eventually hurt her. Until she changes her beliefs and chooses to focus on the countless good people in the world, the cycle will continue.
Writing a list of what you specifically want gives you a blueprint of what to expect. It’s like coming home from a job; your expectations of seeing your house after driving the same route you always drive are so high that it would be absurd to not see it. Law of Attraction uses the same logic. Focus on your list until you expect to meet the people on it, and people who fit the criteria will show up more often based on your level of faith.
It may seem daunting to be so picky because we’ve been programmed to think small. We think so small that we believe it to be impossible to find at least a few people out of 7.3+ billion who fit the descriptions we’re looking for. Some people think so small that they actually believe they’re the only ones in the world — a world of 7.3 billion people — who think a certain way or do certain embarrassing things.
If you’re like most people, you may have seen someone who looks like a celebrity. It’s been said that there are at least 8 lookalikes in the world. That takes care of some people’s wishes to date their celebrity crush.
There are plenty of success stories that prove that this wishlist method works. Open your mind to the fact that the world is much bigger than you and Disney give credit!
Make a nice day!