Most people love compliments. There’s something about hearing a stranger tell us how sharply dressed we are, or a family member telling us that they are proud of us, that helps us feel happy. Why not hold onto that feeling a little longer?
In Jerry Clark’s audio series, The Magic of Influence, he mentions an interesting habit he has when getting compliments. He physically makes note of the praise and saves it for future viewing. For instance, he saves voicemails from fans giving him thanks. He writes down compliments and keeps them handy. Then, when he’s feeling upset, he reviews his collection, which cheers him up.
Everybody knows that when we relive things in our mind, our subconscious doesn’t know that it’s just a memory; it sees it as real. That’s why we feel happy when we think positive thoughts and sad when we think negative thoughts. Even though we’re consciously aware that the memory isn’t actually happening. That’s what makes this habit so powerful.
I recommend using the free Evernote app for this habit. Not just because I dislike carrying notebooks when I take my phone everywhere, but because you can even save voicemail and pictures in it. Do with that what you will. I personally save compliments like I’m writing in a journal; January 20 at the top, followed by a list of compliments received that day.
In a world that confuses self-love with egotism and praises self-hate, embrace how awesome you really are.
Make a nice day!