Everybody knows that physical punishment of children is the subject of heated debate. Here’s my side of that debate. Might teach you a lot about the topic, might not.
It’s interesting how the idea of this article this came up. A few nights ago, I was talking to a certain colleague whom I’ve credited here several times for article ideas. We were discussing hypocrisy, then I brought up a page in his book that mentioned parents telling their kids to stop making noise in the hallway by screaming at them. Then we talked about people who say they don’t believe in violence, but hit their kids. Of course, this led to the subject of beating kids and the question of where I stand on it.
Isn’t it fascinating how fast this topic brings out the hypocrisy in our society? Don’t hit your abusive wife or girlfriend, don’t hit your dog or cat for messing up the furniture, do hit your kids for saying the curse words they learned from you. Everybody knows that telling someone why they should do something makes them more likely to do it, and often makes them want to do it. But when that someone is a young child who may not have the experience or mental development to understand it, some people claim that you’re too soft if you answer them. Just beat them into never questioning you again.
In case you haven’t noticed, no, I don’t believe in hitting kids.
One reason I’m against it is because there is too much ignorance supporting it. For one, too many people automatically assume that those who oppose it must not believe in disciplining the child at all. Look, if hitting them is the only way you can consistently get your point across, then your kids are clearly not the only ones who need discipline.
That word is another thing that people are ignorant about. Regarding the topic of parenting, many people think “discipline” means “to punish a child.” The word actually means “to teach.” Ironically, most people think “this is all I know how to do” and “that’s all I saw growing up” are a legitimate excuses to never seek an alternative. There’s an old saying that, in this day and age, if you don’t know how to do something, it’s because you choose not to know it.
Isn’t it funny how we know that we can leave the rat race and become wealthy, in spite of most of us growing up seeing nothing but the 9-to-5 life, and we know that it’ll take some time, but we work on it anyway? What the mind can believe and conceive, it can achieve. Except raise kids without hitting them — that’s impossible! To hell with all the facts that show why not to hit kids. Never mind the lack of facts that prove its long-term effectiveness. Most people won’t touch a book like Beating Black Kids or The Case Against Spanking: How to Discipline Your Child Without Hitting because the lessons are “too much work.”
Those of you who loved Open Letter for Men & Boys are in for a treat, because here’s another Real Deal controversy that is going to piss a lot of people off.
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