When I was in high school, my English teacher told us a story of a man who showed up at the train station just in time to see the train leave without him. The man then ran to the edge of the platform and managed to leap onto the final car. Some time later, the train crashed, killing most of the passengers, including that man who nearly missed that fate.
I’m just curious, have you ever thought about how many times not getting what you want turned out to be a good thing?
There’s an old saying that we don’t always choose what happens to us, however, we do choose how we respond. Most people tend to respond to negativity by focusing on it all day, and even longer. Everybody knows that focusing on the bad only attracts more bad things into your life.
Those of you who have watched The Secret may remember a pair of scenes that brilliantly illustrate this point. A woman angrily gets out of bed, knocks over the alarm clock, stubs her toe, and her day goes downhill from there. The next scene shows the same woman happily getting out of bed and the rest of her day going well. It was a snowball effect in which she manifested either a good day or a bad day simply by focusing on the good and bad things around her.
We all have that power.
A few years ago, I gave myself a 7-day challenge. At the end of the day, I would write down one bad thing that happened, then I would write down the positives of that bad thing. Interestingly, the final day of this challenge ended with an awesome reward and law of attraction testimony. On that day, I was supposed to be at a parade with my business team to pass out flyers with them. However, I got the days mixed and didn’t realize it until it was too late. While posting polybags in my hometown, I found a $10 bill on the ground. Pretty good trade-off, huh?
So here’s our 7-day assignment: if something bothers us, let’s write it down, then write down the positive things we got out of it. For instance, maybe someone cut you off in traffic and angrily honked their horn at you. You could write that they didn’t crash into you. You could write that after that 3 seconds or so, you’ll never see them again. You could write that you’re not as upset as they are. You could write that most of the other people you’re sharing the road with are safer drivers than that person.
Funny thing is, this challenge pretty much tricks you into making a game out of something that annoyed you. Instead of just focusing on the annoying part, our minds are shifted to finding as many ways as possible to turn that negative into some positives. Which just gave me a great idea to make this assignment more interesting: get together with some friends and make a contest out of who can name the most good things that came from a bad experience.
Let’s face it: most of us dwell far too long on things we won’t change. So why not do something useful with that obsession?
Make a nice day!